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Enemies:

Conquer the angry man by love.
Conquer the ill-natured man by goodness.
Conquer the miser with generosity.
Conquer the liar with truth.
The Dhammapada


I read somewhere: Thank your enemy for they teach you much about yourself.

I think that is true.

I have to be doing that now. I have to find away around my pride. Find a door that leads me out of pride, not into depression or submission, but into love, that can find a way to cope with this without feeling diminished.

Develop the mind of equilibrium.
You will always be getting praise and blame,
but do not let either affect the poise of the mind:
follow the calmness, the absence of pride.
Sutta Nipata

So this seems to be the crux.